Best Man Guide: What You Need to Know
So you’ve been asked to stand up next to the groom. Congrats! Being a best man is more than just a cool title – it’s a mix of planning, keeping cool, and making sure the wedding runs smoothly. Below you’ll find the most useful tasks, speech advice, and gift ideas that will help you rock the role.
Top Responsibilities Before the Wedding
Start early. The first thing most grooms ask is for help with the bachelor party. Pick a date that works for the core group, set a budget, and choose activities the groom actually enjoys. Keep the vibe fun but respectful – remember, the rest of the wedding party will be hearing about it later.
Next, manage the paperwork. Many couples ask the best man to help with RSVPs, keep a tally of who’s coming, and relay any special dietary needs to the caterer. A simple spreadsheet on your phone can save a lot of last‑minute stress.
Don’t forget the suit. Make sure the groom’s suit and the groomsmen’s outfits are ordered on time, and arrange a fitting day a few weeks before the ceremony. If someone needs alterations, coordinate with the tailor and remind them of deadlines.
Mastering the Best Man Speech
Writing the speech is the part that scares most best men. Keep it short – 3 to 5 minutes is perfect. Start with a quick intro: who you are and how you know the groom. Then share one or two genuine stories that show his character. Aim for humor that’s light and inclusive; avoid inside jokes that only a few will get.
Structure matters. Follow the classic flow: opening, anecdote, thank‑you to families, toast to the couple. Practice out loud at least three times, preferably in front of a friend who can give honest feedback. On the day, take a deep breath, smile, and speak at a natural pace.
If you stumble, it’s okay. Pause, laugh it off, and keep going. The audience will appreciate authenticity more than perfection.
Thoughtful Gifts for the Groom
A small token goes a long way. Consider something personal – a engraved pocket watch, a custom bottle of his favorite whiskey, or a set of cufflinks that match his wedding suit. If the groom is into experiences, tickets to a sports event or a cooking class you can do together after the wedding make great memories.
Budget isn’t a problem; the gesture matters more than the price. Even a handwritten letter expressing why you’re proud to stand by him can be a cherished keepsake.
Day‑Of Tips to Keep Everything Smooth
Arrive early. Check the venue, confirm the timeline with the wedding planner, and make sure the groom’s boutonnière is pinned correctly. Keep the wedding rings safe – many best men use a small ring box or a designated pocket.
Be the point person for the groomsmen. If anyone is nervous, late, or needs a quick pep talk, you’re the go‑to. Your calm energy will ripple through the whole party.
During the ceremony, hold the groom’s arm steady as he walks down the aisle, and help with the “just married” photo if needed. After the ceremony, usher guests to their seats for the reception and ensure the cake cutting schedule stays on track.Enjoy the moment. The wedding day flies by, and your role will be remembered for years. By staying organized, delivering a heartfelt speech, and showing up with a genuine smile, you’ll give the groom the support he deserves and make the day unforgettable for everyone.
